Ask Amy: Boyfriend sees jealousy as a dare to cheat
Dear Amy: My girlfriend is very jealous, and doesn’t see it! She has gone through my phone and found photos that I forgot I even had because they were taken years ago. She doesn’t trust me to spend time by myself.
I even share my location with her through iPhone, but she says that when I go to the store (to get my alone time, as I can’t get it at home) that she doesn’t know if that’s where I’m really going.
Shouldn’t she have learned her lesson about going through my phone, snooping and trying to catch me doing things? Because of this, my phone is now only unlockable using Face ID because she knows my passcode.
If I’m getting accused of cheating without even doing it (as I spend every waking moment with her unless I’m at work or she’s at her office), why not just cheat and get it over with? I don’t have a shortage of offers, either.
She’s very insecure because I have been with a LOT of girls. I’m talking high three digits.
I’m a good-looking guy, as I constantly hear from women, but there’s a lot more to me than being aesthetically pleasing. I have a good heart, I’m genuine, I’m cuddly and affectionate, and I have a slew of other good qualities.
My girlfriend is also very highly dependent on me being in bed with her every night to be able to sleep.
Her soon-to-be ex-husband made her spend a lot of time alone because he’s a scumbag, and she’s taking what he did out on me. We live together.
How can we communicate better?
Upset Guy
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