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Ask Amy: A neighbor's visit rattles a relative

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: In this time of social isolation, a neighbor just knocked on my 93-year-old aunt's door and then entered her house. Who does that?

I was talking to her on the phone at the time, from 2,000 miles away, and my aunt put the phone down to go answer the door. I was begging her not to let anyone in. She has been isolated for six weeks at home, and even though her son (my cousin) brings her everything she needs, he does not enter her home because his wife is a healthcare worker.

We all call her and email her daily. We know the isolation is hard on her.

My aunt should NOT have let the woman in, but I could hear the neighbor talking to her. I told her forcefully to ask the woman to leave immediately, but my aunt is not very assertive. I called my cousin and asked him to go over to her house.

I do not care how well-meaning this neighbor was, she put my aunt's life at risk.

This has upset me terribly and I know I will worry for weeks, fearing that my aunt will become sick. Am I overreacting?

 

Please tell people to use common sense!

-- Worried Niece

Dear Niece: Your elderly aunt has a son who is looking in on her. You did the right thing to call him and let him know that a neighbor had stopped by, and now you have to trust that he will handle the situation with his mom.

In my view, you freaked out too forcefully when you were talking to her on the phone. This neighbor might not be in any risk group, and might have maintained a very healthy distance - not touching the doorknob, nor getting too close to your aunt.

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