Ask Amy: An in-law loan goes bad
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Dear Amy: I have loaned an in-law a significant amount of money. While it is not a lot to some people, it is to us.
We have given this person well over a year to pay us back. It was decided that if the loan was not paid back within a year, there would be interest charged.
If the loan date extended later (like a year beyond that), the interest would be increased.
I decided about three months ago to email them. I got no response. Since then I have emailed two more times. I finally received a response.
This person is an independent businessperson who is always chasing the first million.
They said that basically the sky is falling. You know -- "my car died," "I had to relocate some of my inventory..." One hard luck story after another. While I am sympathetic to their situation, it is not my problem.
My wife is stressing out about this, as she is a very caring woman, much more than I. But I have explained to her that we made the loan together as a family.
I am not sure how to respond to their email, other than to say, "I'm sorry about your current situation, but when can you pay us back?"
I have already explained in detail to the in-law that we moved and we also had car troubles and issues with our new house and that we needed the money.