Ask Amy: Parents seem to be using their kids as leverage
They could have fancy degrees and an expensive house, and still be up to their ears in debt. But -- it is not your duty to bail them out.
As a parent, your daughter must recognize that surely there are times when her own children ask for -- or expect -- things she can't or won't provide. Good parents occasionally say no, and you are saying no.
And yes -- to answer your direct question, you should continue to send modest gifts and cards to the kids to mark these special days in their lives.
Dear Amy: I met a really charming guy. He is so lovely.
He has five kids with two women (three with one, and two with the other).
Doing the math, two of the kids are around six months apart, which means he will have had both women pregnant at the same time.
He says that I am different from the other women and that his exes are just crazy.
He is so great, although I know he led a double life with the other two women. Neither women knew this, for years.
His most recent ex says that even his family hid the other woman (with two kids and a baby on the way) while she was pregnant.
Ex #2 felt deceived by him and his whole family. She said that he would invent fights with her for no reason and then he would then storm out. Turns out he was going to his ex.
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