Life Advice



Ask Amy: New mother-in-law wants DIL to love her

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I am a first-time mother-in- law.

We are a close family. We have always kept in touch with one another on a regular basis, even after the kids left home.

My son and new daughter-in-law live about 90 minutes away.

My daughter-in-law seems content to keep contact to a minimum. This includes discussing/celebrating important events -- both happy and sad.

For example, I am going through a difficult separation from my husband. I have told my daughter-in-law that it would mean a lot to me to hear from her, to know that she is concerned about me.

When I expressed my feelings to her, she claimed I was telling her "how" to love me. I told her that a loving family should be able to express their needs to each other.


I was not allowed a mother/son dance at their wedding because she lost her father and I was told it would be too difficult for her to watch us dance.

I did dance with my son at the end of the evening, and she mumbled to me that she didn't mean to be "an ass..." about the dance.

They are now expecting their first child, and my son called to tell me the baby will be born with a heart defect and will need surgery at some point.

He asked me to wait a day before calling her.


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