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Ask Amy: 'Green card' marriage worries friends

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Friend: Yes, you will watch this ship hit the iceberg, but you should do so from your own lifeboat, bobbing patiently and at the ready for a rescue, if necessary.

"Frederick" trusted your advice enough to follow through on a background check, so he is actually listening to you.

You should accept his romantic choices -- as disastrous as they seem to be -- and confine your counsel to practical matters. This is the equivalent of tossing him a lifesaving buoy. He should legally safeguard his financial assets, business and property, as a hedge against his somewhat uncertain romantic future.

Stay close to Frederick and get to know his new partner. His friendships offer an important emotional support system.

Dear Amy: Recently my husband received a text from a co-worker, who is also married, and she attached little hearts at the end of the text.

I feel that this is not only unprofessional, but a personal breach as well.

 

I asked him to please address it and he said he would. He has not. Your thoughts?

-- Wondering Wife

Dear Wondering: Here's a little story: Years ago, my husband (a builder who spends his days working out of his pickup truck), ended a telephone call with a subcontractor by saying, "Love you, honey." Oops. He had just gotten off the phone with me and ... it just flew out.

My point is that if someone texts a lot, it is possible that the little heart emojis basically flew out. Or -- if this colleague was asking your husband for a work-related favor, the heart emojis might have been her (clumsy) way of saying either "please" or "thank you." I agree that this is not business-like.

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