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Dear Amy: My boyfriend "Brad" and I have been dating for almost a year. Brad and I have very different views about social media. For me, Instagram is my "scrapbook" of memories -- it's my way of documenting my life. By the six-month mark, Brad had become the most important thing in my life, and I wanted to share that with everyone!

However, Brad sees social media as superficial. He doesn't want to share our relationship with followers. He also thinks I just want attention from people who don't matter -- he says we should just send photos of ourselves to friends, or I should document our relationship in a private folder.

I understand his point of view. I know that he does not want to "hide" our relationship. I know he won't post pictures of us, even though it hurts to see my best friends and their significant others' happy pictures of their adventures. But, at this point, it's also stopping me from posting my own photos because he is such a huge part of my life that posting photos without him seems artificial. It seems unfair to me.

After we reached an impasse, I decided that I should be able to post photos of us, even if he decides not to post any.

When I told him I wanted to post photos of us marking our anniversary, it opened up the argument all over again.

I get it. It is his face, and I would be annoyed if a friend posted a picture of me without my permission. But, at the same time, he has chosen to be a part of my life and my Instagram was my scrapbook long before we started dating.

And I want to document (and yes, even show off sometimes -- I'm human!) my life.

Is there a compromise here?

-- Anonymous

Dear Anonymous: The compromise I suggest involves you respecting your boyfriend's wishes not to have his photo posted on your public Instagram account. If your guy doesn't want to be Kanye to your Kim, then ... more power to him.

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