Ask Amy: Birth family reunion doesn't go as planned
DNA testing has upended many family relationships, because it exposes the truth: that life is complicated, that no family is perfect, and that many of us live comfortably with half-buried secrets and sometimes in outright denial.
None of this complication is at all surprising to those of us who grew up in more openly chaotic and disrupted or dysfunctional homes. We all come from somewhere, and the truth is not always pretty, but beauty is born when you absorb and accept the truth -- and keep going.
You have every reason to be upset. I think you also have every reason to celebrate your own resilience, the joys of your combined families, and your healthy quest for knowledge.
You should do some legal research of your own to see what your options are, regarding forcing this issue -- if you choose to.
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been blessed with the most loving and caring daughters-in-law.
Unfortunately, one of them has type 1 diabetes.
She and our son were blessed with a beautiful baby girl a few months back. Although she was born prematurely, with the most amazing care that she received in NICU, she is healthy.
Going through this pregnancy and the years of her having diabetes, has taken its toll. She now needs to have a kidney transplant.
Both my husband and I are organ donors, but we are not a match for her.
We all can't predict what the future holds. All of us will eventually die. But choosing to donate our organs when our time comes gives the gift of life to someone else.
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