Ask Amy: A change in faith prompts a change in friends
Her disappointment regarding your life-change is her burden to bear. You should not assume responsibility for her reactions.
If she feels the need to evangelize to you, ask her to stop, and say, "I'm completely at peace with my point of view, so this really isn't up for discussion," and change the subject.
There is nothing wrong with engaging in a hearty debate, by the way, if both sides are permitted to express themselves and each of you listen and respond respectfully.
Dear Amy: Like many people, my wife and I send out Christmas cards during the holiday season -- one card to each household on our list.
Some folks who have other household members (age 21 and above) living with them have asked us to send a separate card to each of their adult children in the household.
These are single adults still living in their childhood bedroom, not a family living in separate quarters on the property.
We think "and family" covers everyone under the same roof. By the way, those extra adults do not send out their own cards.
We update addresses, and add or drop folks, in what we believe to be normal Christmas list maintenance. Did some etiquette change?
-- Getting Carded
Dear Carded: I understand that there are circumstances where perhaps an adult child has a special need and will be cohabiting with parents for the duration of their lifetime. In that case, it would be kindest to send the adult child a separate card.
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