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Ask Amy: Married couple has a taste for wedding cake

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My husband and I recently eloped to avoid all of the wedding drama, stress, expense, and hubbub.

We are in our 30s, and we are the last of our friends to get married.

We did not share our engagement on social media and instead told people if we ran into them in person. This, however, led to some people finding out months later, and then maybe feeling hurt or less important.

We chose to elope five months after getting engaged and did not tell many friends. We did not even tell our parents.

Since getting married, however, we have not received many congratulations -- not even text messages congratulating us.

I guess this is because we eloped, but I thought that some of our closest friends would at least reach out or send a card.


Am I being unreasonable? Do I want to have my (no wedding) cake and eat it, too?

I am usually the friend who throws parties, and now I am feeling a little hurt that not one friend felt the need to celebrate us. Although a few people keep suggesting that we should throw our own party, this seems like tooting our own horn.

Did we miss out? Shouldn't people celebrate us?

-- Married in Kansas City


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