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Ask Amy: Woman is warned that boyfriend is bi

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

You two are headed in opposite directions. You are thinking about cohabiting and babies, and he is thinking about ... well, he's thinking about a lot of other things, most of which seem to point him toward other people and other relationships.

You do not have the option of forcing him to stay with you. Nor should you coerce him to stay with you. You need to let him go, and -- because being in an open relationship wouldn't be healthy for you -- you should love and support him as a friend, while he figures out who he is -- and what he wants.

Dear Amy: I pride myself on being a good listener.

While not a fast talker, my speech pattern is not halting. However, I have several friends who finish my sentences along with me and/or cut me off to talk about whatever they want.

I feel very dismissed by these actions. I have handled their finishing my sentences by saying, "Oh my God, that is exactly what I was going to say" or, "Nope, that is not what I was going to say," which leads them to guess, out loud.

When they cut me off, I let them have their say and continue on with "Is it OK if I continue with what I was talking about?"

 

Despite these comebacks, the behavior continues.

These are good people with good manners, but I am made to feel invisible by their actions. What is your advice to help me get my message across?

-- Dismissed and Invisible

Dear Dismissed: You've been patient and polite, as you have waited out these interruptions from your friends. At this point, you might kindly help them to refrain from engaging in this very bad habit. It's annoying! It's rude! And they likely do this to other people.

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