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You can ghost them, by not acknowledging any contact from them.

You can politely refuse their invitation: "Thank you for inviting me, but I have other plans."

Or you can respond: "Hi, George and Martha. After a very long period of no contact from either one of you, I've now received an invitation to spend time with you. This is confusing. Has something changed?"

They might respond with a sensitive explanation of what triggered their ghosting. You will then have the opportunity to acknowledge and (perhaps) forgive. Most likely, they will revert to their previous technique of being silent in order to avoid the awkwardness of explaining themselves.

You should figure out exactly what you really want to do, and then do it.

Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been together for just over six blissful months. We have talked about marriage, kids, and an entire future together. We are pretty young (both 22) and live in an expensive town, so he lives with his mom and I live with roommates.

He hasn't told his mom that we are dating. He even lied to her about a four-day vacation we went on, saying that he went with friends, so that he didn't have to tell her that we are together.

I have expressed that it really bothers me that he won't tell his mom, after six months of us dating and him living in the same home as her. He refuses to tell her because she is somewhat toxic and manipulative.

Every time he goes out with me, he's lying to her about where he is.

I gave him an ultimatum that if he doesn't tell his mom soon, the relationship probably wouldn't work out.

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