Life Advice



Man worries about coming out to his girlfriend

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I'm a 26-year-old male with a gorgeous, amazing girlfriend, a loving family, a successful career, and a house to call my own.

Through college I had lots of girlfriends. From the outside it seems like the perfect picture.

For the better part of my life, I've been hiding thoughts and feelings about men, constantly brushing them off as a phase.

The problem is that year after year these feelings have begun to get stronger.

I realized this year this wasn't just a phase, but a real part of who I am, and I believe I need to embrace it.

The problem I have is that even in this culture of acceptance and openness I cannot get over the thought of hurting those around me by admitting to these feelings.


My sex life with my girlfriend has slowly fizzled over the last five years, so maybe this knowledge could bring some comfort to her, but also pain.

Not to mention the challenges with my friends who have strong conservative views, or my father, who is old school.

I feel like I have to choose between throwing everything I have away or continuing to hide and bury it. I think I'm bisexual, but I haven't felt any sexual feelings toward women in a while. The back and forth is killing me.

I don't know what to do.


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