Life Advice



Wedding showers become 'save me' memes

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

I tried to explain that, in our social network, almost everyone moves in with their serious boyfriends/girlfriends before getting engaged and, for us, it's the "new normal" progression of relationships.

I know my parents only want the best for me, but I don't agree with their opinion, and I'm not sure what to do about it.

-- Frustrated Millennial

Dear Frustrated: I have news for you: You and your cohort did not invent moving in together before marriage. Your parents' generation did that.

You are also not a "girl." You are a woman. By now you should be emotionally, financially, and actually out on your own.

Your parents have the right to their opinions, but I think you should say (to yourself), "OK Boomer," and live your life the way you want to.

Dear Amy: I appreciated a recent quote you ran in your column from the Dalai Lama. Unfortunately, your misspelling detracted from the message.


It's Dalai, not "Dali," as you had it.

-- Proofreader

Dear Proofreader: I apologize for the error. It's ironic, because I've just started reading "The Dalai Lama: An Extraordinary Life," by Alexander Norman (on sale in February 2020).


(You can email Amy Dickinson at or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)




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