Groomsman says 'I do' to the bride
Continue to generously grant your friendship, and continue to keep your distance, because this seems to work for you.
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been together for 12 years. We have lived in three different states for his job. Each new job helps him to build his resume and increase his salary. I am a teacher, and have easily found jobs at each location.
He is being considered for yet another job across the country.
Although he makes significantly more than I do, each move puts me at the bottom rung of the ladder at my new school, and impacts my retirement savings. I have had to put off getting my master's degree because of the possibility of moving.
I love my husband very much, but I'm tired of feeling like my career and education should take a backseat simply because his earning potential is higher.
He understands and has offered to not accept the job, but I know he will resent me if I tell him I don't want to move again.
I am a very easy-going person in general, but I find myself getting angrier each time we discuss this move. Please help!
-- Moving Again in Mississippi
Dear Moving Again: You are not responsible for your husband's (possible) resentment. He is not responsible for your anger.
You should be equal partners in your marriage, regardless of your income. However, there are practical considerations for both to consider.
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