ArcaMax

I honestly think you missed the politeness mark by a mile when, in the moment, you introduced the concept of "you break it, you bought it," and then were further "offended" by the lively discussion that followed.

It is truly a joy to entertain using your best things. But when you do so, you assume the risk associated with using these items. If you don't want to assume the risk, then yes -- leave these precious things in the cabinet.

Things are things, and can be replaced. People? Not so much.

Dear Amy: Recently, I connected with a cousin who I admire for living a life on his terms -- he's a logger with his own logging company -- even though I don't agree or champion deforestation of any kind, and live in a house and have furniture made from wood.

However, he's also a hunter. He recently posted a picture of the bear he shot, with his gun laying on top of the bear.

I am opposed to hunting of any kind. I don't eat meat, but I don't get on my soapbox about it; I keep quiet, believing that everyone makes their own choices based on their values and I don't believe that anyone should push their beliefs on others.

That said, deer season will be coming up soon and I dread the photos of dead deer and of seeing them strapped across vehicles.

To me, taking a life -- especially for sport -- is beyond disgusting.

If my cousin asks me if I got or saw his photo, how do I respond? Should I say "yes" and leave it at that?

I don't want to preach, but I also don't want to appear to condone this behavior.

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