The kids are ungrateful, so why keep giving?
Dear Amy: My wife and I have two daughters-in-law.
They are both excellent wives to our sons and mothers to our grandchildren.
One is in her mid-30s, and the other is turning 40.
The younger is a stay-at-home mother, but manages and cleans their Airbnb, which we have a large vested interest in. She does an excellent job both there and at home.
The other daughter-in-law has a high-profile job and has excellent people skills. We love them both very much.
Each year both women take pictures at the beginning of the school year with beautifully made signs showing what grades the kids are going into, standing in front of their homes.
They send these photos off to family and friends. Unfortunately, we do not receive the photo from the younger daughter-in-law, so I have to text my son and ask him for the pictures, which we eventually receive.
Shortly after they were married, her own parents told us, "She is a handful; look out!"
I pay when we go out together, but I never hear a thanks from her, the grandchildren, or our son.
We love being with them and we don't want to hinder our relationships. We see them often, and have helped them financially, with no thanks.
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