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By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Cassie invited me to a party she is hosting this Saturday, but I also have a possible date for the same day.

Cassie messaged me and said, "A guy asked me out at church, and I said yes. I've had my eye on him for a while. He's gonna be at my party and I just wanted to give you a heads-up."

Amy, I know she's trying to make me mad. So I messaged her today and said, "Hey, do you even want me at your party? I don't want you to invite me just because you feel you have to." She responded: "It doesn't matter to me, but I just don't want you getting mad or anything if you see me with a guy."

I said I wouldn't be mad and I explained I didn't want to be there if she didn't want me there. And all she basically said was that it was up to me. So, I don't know if I should go or not. If the date is a definite yes then I'm going on the date, but if not, should I go to the party?

-- Wondering

Dear Wondering: No, you should not go to this party. This relationship is over, "Cassie" is telling you it is over, and she is giving you the benefit of a heads-up concerning her party. You are obviously triggered by this and interpreting her honesty as an opportunity to try to manipulate her. It's time for you to strike out on your own.

 

Dear Amy: "Baggage Handler" was a mom who discovered that an airport worker had left a note containing his phone number in her daughter's baggage.

Mom freaked out, and so did you. But this is how modern young people communicate.

-- Not Upset

Dear Not Upset: Actually, leaving handwritten notes is how Victorians communicate. However, I agree that if this daughter is an adult, her reaction should be respected.

(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)


 

 

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