Mom's grave is going to need a larger stone
Dear Amy: My 94-year-old mother passed away in January.
She was very specific about her grave marker because she was sensitive about her age. She said she didn't want any dates listed, only her name, and just her name.
Since then my siblings have added her death date (because it doesn't give her age) as well as "beloved wife/mother/grandmother/great-grandmother."
She loved her kids and her grandchildren but never knew the others and really didn't care much about them.
Now they want to add my father's name! (They never had a good marriage), and potentially the names of our parent's direct children, including me.
I'm not sure if there's even enough room on the marker.
I think my mother would like the attention, but that's not what she said she wanted. She wanted only her name.
So if you have any advice about the living (and the dead) and grave markers, I would appreciate it.
I know my mother is laughing about this, but I wanted to step up and tell them what she said she wanted.
How should I handle this?
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