Lost love resurfaces as soul mate
Dear Amy: At the age of 21, I was in love with "Steve." We planned a life together, but broke up for a bunch of dumb reasons.
We'd see each other every two or three years at gatherings with mutual friends. I did eventually get over him and we both partnered with other people.
I've been with "Brad" for almost 12 years. I've helped to raise his (now 15-year-old) daughter and we are close, even though when she was 12 Brad and I moved 2,000 miles away. (Now his daughter is planning to move in with us.)
During one trip home, I met up with Steve and his wife one day for lunch. Steve and I reminisced the whole time.
A few days later, Steve told me he has more fun memories with me than with his wife. I feel the same way. We decided to talk/text more often because we miss our close friendship.
After three weeks of talking and texting just about every night, he confessed he never stopped loving me and wanted to kiss me the day we met for lunch.
I told him I felt the same. I asked why he didn't break up with his wife and come back to me. We decided that we want to get back together in the near future. We also both feel that our current relationships are a result of us "just settling."
Steve's wife has no idea that he wants to leave her, but Brad knows about it and he is OK with whatever the outcome is.
Brad and I have been in a rut, but still love each other. I want to be with Steve and know he's my soul mate, but feel bad leaving Brad.
Please help! What would you do?
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