Emotions roll when the ex gets married
So, let's recalibrate. This man asked you to marry him. Very wisely, you said no.
In every possible universe -- both known and yet to be discovered -- you win!
Getting married is not a signifier of success. For some people, getting married is what you do because you can't hold a job, can't quit smoking and drinking, can't control your temper and are clinging to the bottom rung of the "what-the-hell-am-I-doing?" ladder. Getting married is a distraction. And that distraction lasts between two weeks and two years. Then, it's on to the next thing.
I give you permission to cry about this, to feel confused, and to send yourself on a brief "what-if" flight of fancy. But please, do not wonder about whether this guy loved you enough. Concentrate instead on loving yourself more.
Dear Amy: I always enjoy and appreciate your advocacy for animals, namely rescue dogs.
I want to give a sort of "PSA" to the dog-owning community at large.
Many well-meaning owners who have had their dogs since puppyhood assume that all dogs are friendly and want to play with each other.
In a perfect world this would be the case and I would love it, but unfortunately many dogs (and other animals) have gone through trauma that causes them to act out. My own dog, when approached by another dog, is likely to try to attack, no matter the circumstances.
I am a responsible dog owner and we are in professional training to work on these issues. We also avoid situations like this whenever possible. But when a naïve dog owner insists on approaching us with their dog, even as I yell, "No, no, no, he's not friendly!" it really puts me in a tough spot!
I have no trouble coming off as rude by turning around and walking/running the other way, but we have actually been cornered a couple of times, even as I warned them to stay away.
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