Emotions roll when the ex gets married
Dear Amy: My ex-boyfriend is getting married. We broke up only five months ago. We had stopped being intimate for a year before we broke up. That was a big problem for me. Plus, he smoked and drank and could not hold a job. He also has a terrible temper.
I am 62, and was married once before. He is 54, and has been married twice before. After we had been together for two years, he asked me to marry him, and I said no.
After I left him, I felt really good about my decision to end the relationship.
Why do I feel so sad and upset now?
Why should I care that he's getting married? Why does it hurt, even though I left him? Apparently, he didn't love me as much as I thought he did.
What's wrong with me?
I cried myself to sleep the other night.
Can you give me some answers?
-- Confused and Hurt
Dear Confused: You are upset; this might be why your emotional abacus seems to be on the fritz.
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