Ex needs to break-up a second time
Dear Upset: Your gripe seems to be primarily with "Wendell." He is the person violating the marriage vows that are so important to you. Your friend is a party to his behavior, but he is ultimately responsible for it. If you feel the need to exclude him from important events for this reason, and you feel he deserves or requires an explanation, then you should tell him.
You don't seem to know him -- or have special insight into his situation. I would feel uncomfortable judging someone so harshly, until or unless you had walked in his shoes or at least made an effort to understand the circumstances.
You have to live by your own standards; it is not always wise, or kind, to insist that others must.
Dear Amy: I was amused by the problem presented by "Won't Host Again," who couldn't get her brunch/lunch guests to leave!
My dad used to say, "Well, we're going to bed, so it's time for you to go now."
Subtle, Dad! But it worked.
-- Miss my Folks
Dear Miss: One issue here was that these gatherings were happening during the day, so "going to bed" was more or less off the table.
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