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The smoke makes us cough and leaves a bad odor in our home.
If they switched from wood to gas, that would take care of the problem, but would be an expense for them.
Do you have any suggestions on how to approach these folks?
-- Smoked-out in Redwood City, CA
Dear Smoked-out: According to information on your local fire department's website, there is an ordinance against "open burning" in your area. You should contact the fire department to ask if fire pits qualify.
Your town (Redwood City) lies in very close proximity to the massive area in California that burned last year during the historic Camp Fire, which killed 85 people, injured three firefighters and burned more than 10,000 structures.
Given the extreme risk, it seems obvious that it is a terrible idea to burn anything outside that might send up sparks.
You should ask these neighbors if they would consider switching to using gas. The safety risk to all of your homes should override the awkwardness of the ask.
Dear Amy: "No Good Options" reported being uncomfortable receiving "the male gaze" and compliments from men in public.
Give me a break. So now men can't compliment women? Nice.
-- A Nice Guy
Dear Nice Guy: I solicited reader responses, and most seem to say that "No Good Options" needs to get a grip. I'll run more responses in a future column.
(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
