Ghosted girlfriend is trapped with ex at a wedding
How do I stop myself from trying to figure out all his tells and body language when I'm in the same room as him?
-- Still Confused
Dear Confused: Generally, getting over a breakup should not take longer than the relationship itself lasted.
Forget "tells" and body language. In this age where consent is not implied but voiced, people need to be able to communicate their intentions verbally. This includes him.
You've written him a letter, which means that you've had the last word. Moving forward, you should assume that you don't really know him, and that you probably never will. Lucky you!
Watch your alcohol consumption during this wedding week. Hang with a (different) friend who can be both a buffer and a wing man for you. Treat him politely. Don't reveal yourself. Have an awesome time. This is the ultimate revenge.
Dear Amy: I've been married to an increasingly "angry white man" for over 40 years. He has always had an explosive temper. He sees himself as a victim of society's racial deference to non-whites, and takes offense to the increasing number of TV ads with mixed-race or black actors. During our recent anniversary dinner at a nice restaurant, he became incensed that a black man and white woman were seated beside us and said, "We might have to move to another table."
He once had a raging fit at a sushi chef about the Japanese in World War II.
I live on pins and needles. He treats me very lovingly, and our friends and acquaintances think we have a good marriage, but our values have become radically different.
He will not change, and I don't know how to keep living like this.
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