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Hubby undermines plans, wife goes ALL CAPS

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

What's wrong with him?

-- No Father's Day

Dear No Father's Day: I don't know what's wrong with him, but let's try to figure out where you went off the rails:

Your kids had planned a dinner for their father at your son's house.

Your husband attempted to derail it by changing the venue. You could have said, "Honey, call your son. This isn't my holiday to arrange. It's called 'Father's Day,' not 'Husband's Day.'"

I am sincerely sorry you two had this dust-up so soon after your father's death. These days are emotionally loaded, and your husband was not compassionate or supportive. He was outright unkind to you.

 

I hope you can create some healthy boundaries so that his behavior doesn't affect you so much. Try calmly saying (no ALL CAPS), "The plans have been made. If you want things to be different, you'll have to step up, take some responsibility, and plan them on your own."

Dear Amy: We live in a national historic district, and some of the neighboring homes have been featured in films and television series. People come from all over the world to see the houses and take pictures of them.

Almost every day, other tourists come in massive recreational vehicles and vans. They park right in front of these sites, blocking not only the sight lines of their camera-toting peers, but also those of the patient people who live in and maintain the houses.

I've also seen this behavior at national parks and the like, not to mention those who park so close to corners that their vehicles completely block drivers from safely seeing cross traffic.

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