She was so happy, until the birthday surprise
-- Ruminating in DC
Dear Ruminating: This relationship seems to have progressed at warp speed.
If you had dated longer before cohabiting, this birthday-date might not make you so bananas now.
The first thing you should do is to make sure your STD tests are up to date.
It seems logical that he was with another woman -- likely for a previously scheduled special weekend/birthday trip that turned into a last-hurrah/breakup weekend -- possibly with someone he met after you two started dating.
Over his birthday, you two were still in the non-exclusive dating phase. You don't get to feel hurt. You do get to feel curious.
Your boyfriend seems to be in the driver's seat of your relationship. If he doesn't want to disclose or discuss this, and you don't want to move out, I agree with him that you should find a way to move on.
Dear Amy: My husband and I are parents of an only child. We love to travel together as a family.
However, my husband and I also realize that down the road as our son grows older, he may occasionally want to invite a friend along.
We are comfortable with this idea, but it's brought up some questions about the proper financial etiquette in such a situation.