Life Advice



She was so happy, until the birthday surprise

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months.

Despite his affection and eagerness to see me frequently, I knew he was still seeing other people.

His birthday was about five or six weeks after we met -- about 10 dates into our relationship.

Instead of being with me, he went away for the weekend with some friends. When he came back, he wanted to start seeing me exclusively.

We moved in together a few weeks ago. This past weekend, I casually asked about his birthday weekend.

Now that we are together, I was hoping he would tell me who he was with. He has been very open about his past relationships before we met. But he refused to talk about it. He said that no good could come from me knowing.


I tried to explain to him that it was better for me to know the truth and move on than to wonder.

It is quite obvious that he went with another woman. Now I can't seem to let it go.

I'm hurt that he didn't want to spend his birthday with me. I'm concerned that there was someone else that he cared enough about to spend his birthday with right before we became serious.

I love him and our relationship is otherwise healthy, so am I wrong to be hurt and questioning things? If so, how do I let it go?


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