Mom doesn't want to clean up after two humans
We get along well and share a lot of similarities. All of my friends, who have met him, like him.
My concern is that it has been over nine months since we started dating. We have been exclusive for a long time and he has yet to tell anyone about me.
I asked him if it's because he is not sure where this relationship is headed, or if he is embarrassed to be seen with me, and suggested we take a break for a month to see what he expects from me and this relationship. He said he didn't know why he hadn't told anyone.
It really makes me sad, and I don't know what else I should have done.
Any advice?
-- Secret and Sad
Dear Secret: It sounds as if you don't have an ex-spouse and teenage child.
The presence of either might inspire a person to crave being in a relationship bubble. Your guy might simply be enjoying the privacy and independence of keeping this relationship private. Before walking away, you should see if he can communicate more cogently regarding his own reasoning.
Dear Amy: "Judged and Sad" was struggling with infertility. Questions about when she was going to have a baby were very painful to her.
Is there ever a right way to ask someone of childbearing years if they plan to have children?
-- Wondering
Dear Wondering: It depends on the relationship, and the surrounding culture.
I was never asked, and have never asked this question -- even of family members.
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