Hometown visit will come at a cost
I am very relieved that you pointed out that Curt might actually be the monster his wife was describing.
You wrote: "Many people operate comfortably in a duality..."
I'm a survivor of just such a relationship.
-- Survivor
Dear Survivor: Most abusers don't show that face to the world.
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