Hometown visit will come at a cost
I have never responded when she makes the remark.
I've tried telling her about my anxiety, depression and migraines, but she has no base in knowledge of any of it, so I feel like she's never going to understand how much this comment hurts my feelings.
It's like she's more interested in making the quip than she's concerned about my feelings.
Do I have to go into depth explaining my unstable family structure and how I basically hid from the world to cope?
Should I continue to bite my tongue and roll my eyes?
And if I confront her, what should I say? I don't want to yell at her for being so careless.
-- Frustrated and Misunderstood
Dear Frustrated: Your friend seems to think that this is something of a running joke between you, because you've never told her otherwise. Don't blame her for being clueless, when you've neglected to clue her in.
Do not wait to bring this up until you (and she) have had some reunion cocktails. You should contact her beforehand, and face the momentary awkwardness of calmly explaining yourself, in depth -- one time.
Dear Amy: "Knows too Much" was complaining that her friend "Curt's" wife trashed Curt in their first meeting.
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