Parent feels left out when ex keeps a secret
Dear Amy: My ex-fiance and I were together for five years, and have been separated for over three years. We have a child.
We have shared custody of our child, and although my ex is very wealthy, I have never asked for any child support or compensation because I just wanted us to focus on co-parenting our child, without the mess.
My mother informed me that my ex was engaged, after she saw it on social media. He never told me. We had a great relationship until he started seeing this woman. According to him, she is very jealous of me.
I see my ex at least once a week. Although I had a negative opinion when I found out about their relationship, I got over it quickly and told my ex that if she makes him happy, then I wish him the best.
They got married quickly after being engaged and he still hasn't said anything to me.
Now our relationship has an awkward vibe. I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable, and I've been waiting to see if he would eventually tell me about his marriage. I have been very nice to his wife. I'm not sure why he's hiding all of these important events from me.
Should I say something, just to get it out of the way so it doesn't strain our relationship?
-- Glass Half Full
Dear Glass: You seem to focus entirely on your ex's life -- and his feelings -- when you should be focusing on your own, and your child's.
You both seem cowardly. He is too chicken to tell you he's gotten married. And you don't seem to have advocated for your child. Do you have a legal custody agreement?