The kids are upset by Mom's involvement with 'stepson'
Dear Amy: My significant other (we were never officially married) died six months ago from a long-term illness.
In our 25 years together, we had a 25-year-old daughter and a 21-year-old son. During that time, my SO also had an illegitimate son. That son is also 21, and is just a few months older than the son he and I had together.
I didn't even meet this son until he was 15 years old.
After my significant other's death, his son, "Seth," began living with me and my son.
About a month ago I developed a sexual relationship with Seth.
My children have now disowned me, calling the relationship disgusting, a poor decision, and inappropriate.
The way I see it, other than the age gap of 25 years, we are both single, both adults, and we are not related, I didn't raise him, I didn't even meet him until he was 15 years old, and I was never actually married to his dad -- therefore I was never an actual stepmom.
Do you think my children are correct in their perception of this relationship, and if so, for what reasons?
-- Not a Stepmother
Dear Not: Your children perceive that your choice to engage in a sexual relationship with their half-brother a mere five months after their father's death is disgusting, a poor decision, and inappropriate.
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