Stepmother worries about role in new family
Yes, the next phase of your family's life is unclear. You should enter it with an open and enthusiastic attitude. Your new daughter-in-law and her parents sound like nice people. I assume that their dealings with Mama-Bear-in-Law may already be challenging; you should be opposite. Befriend them, include them, invite them to get to know you better, and be a loving, generous and low-pressure "bonus" grandmother.
Your husband needs to find a new way to advocate for himself.
Dear Amy: I love your column dearly and read it faithfully. Something is bugging me: People have the right to choose whatever orientation they want to be (gay, lesbians, or whatever).
What is bothering me is this:
1. Why would a gay (male) couple adopt girls?
2. Why would a lesbian couple adopt boys?
I deeply respect your feedback. Thanks.
-- Ease My Mind
Dear Ease My Mind: That sound you hear is me, ever-so-gently banging my head against my desk. Fortunately, the volume of reader mail provides a nice cushion.
I'm publishing your question to illustrate and highlight my own frustration. If you have been such a faithful reader of my work over the years, I would hope that you'd have picked up a thing or two. Evidently you have not, and so I'll restate:
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