Parenthood points and perks don't add up
Dear Amy: My husband and I met five years ago. We traveled extensively, mostly out of necessity. I worked as a consultant, traveling for work.
Vacations were great because my work travel gave me point status at hotels, as well as big client bonuses.
I now work from home and take care of our 1-year-old.
My husband and I were planning a vacation but when I told him that I didn't have status points or cash to pay for "my third" of the costs, he didn't want to go. (Previously, I always paid one-third of the costs, proportional to our incomes.)
I am deeply hurt by this. He can afford it. He just does not think it is fair that he has to pay for the entire trip. I am making a huge sacrifice by staying home. I'm sacrificing my career (and my sanity). I can't believe he does not have my back!
I feel like I am not a partner, but a roommate. We split our other bills evenly.
So now I wonder what happens if I get sick or lose my job.
Am I overreacting?
-- Worn Out
Dear Worn Out: I'm betting that, pre-baby, you two probably devoted more time to talking about strollers than you did about your financial future.
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