Grieving mother diminishes others' problems
Dear Excluded: I can imagine how upsetting this must have been.
It sounds as if your son might now be in a marriage with a woman who is dominating him and is perhaps calling all the shots. This unfortunate dynamic often surfaces around weddings (where brides and their family traditionally plan and pay).
Your son is obligated to stand up for himself and advocate for his own parents.
You don't say whether you have expressed your disappointment over this, but you should.
You could contact your son and his wife and say, "Your wedding was beautiful. Unfortunately, I am so disappointed that none of our extended family members were included or invited. I hope to move forward on a different footing so that we can all be in this family together."
Dear Amy: Thank you for pointing out the obvious to "Expectant," who was fretting over whether her husband would be present for the birth of her baby.
You told her that the best-laid birth plans often go awry.
I'll say so! One of my children was born while my husband was stuck in a blizzard on the other side of the country.
-- We Survived
Dear Survived: In the best cases, these situations contribute to the family lore.
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