Grieving mother diminishes others' problems
She would benefit from connecting with others who have experienced similar losses, who understand the unique grief accompanying suicide, and can comprehend the enormity of the void in her life. You should suggest that she reach out to a group like allianceofhope.org (for survivors of suicide), or Compassionate Friends (compassionatefriends.org), for bereaved parents.
In terms of her dinner party martyrdom -- don't ask if you can help. Just push up your sleeves and dive in.
Dear Amy: How do I let this go?
My son told me his wedding would be a low-key affair, as they could not justify spending the money.
He told me the wedding would involve a few close friends, her parents and me and my partner. I was not involved in the planning at all.
Come the actual wedding, and I was stunned to see the bride's grandparents, brother, his wife, kids, aunts and uncles, flower girls, ring bearers, fancy flowers, wedding planner, photographer etc.
I was shocked and humiliated. I do not understand how between the three of them (the couple and her mother), it was somehow acceptable not to invite the groom's family.
How do I get over this and move on?
We are not on good terms now.
-- Excluded Mother of the Groom
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