Artist's Instagram request is insta-ignored
Dear Lost: You should definitely reach out, and you should express your sympathy and concern.
Here's a start: "Dear 'Daisy,' I was so saddened to learn of your daughter's accident. I am so grateful for your mentorship and friendship to me over the years. Please know that I am thinking about all of you, now. I'll be in the area soon and would love to see you both again, if possible."
Please understand that it is compassionate and appropriate to connect, even if you aren't sure what to say, and even if you can't offer a solution to a particular problem. So often, people choose to back away during challenging times. Don't ghost your friend now.
Dear Amy: I was furious at your advice to "Concerned Parent," who was upset that his young son admired Michael Jackson!
You said that "Michael Jackson hurt children." Whatever happened to "innocent until proven guilty?!"
-- Upset
Dear Upset: "Concerned" believed that Michael Jackson hurt children. And -- given that the justice system often favors the powerful and connected over their victims -- I think it is possible that justice was not served in this case.
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(You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: ASKAMY@amydickinson.com. Readers may send postal mail to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook.)
