Facebook feedback causes friendship to falter
Dear Amy: I am in my 60s and have known "Sue" for more than 40 years.
Over the years, Sue has made several negative comments about some of my Facebook posts. For instance, one time I posted that I was sick. She called me to ask why I would put such a thing on FB. Another involved a joke that she didn't think was funny.
Eventually I changed privacy settings so she couldn't see my posts.
We also both belong to a school alumni Facebook group. Within the last few months she has criticized a couple of my comments to others in that group.
Neither of these comments had anything to do with her. In one, I commiserated with an alumni friend who talked about his shyness by noting that my son is also shy. I provided no other details. Sue reamed me out for "gossiping" about my son.
Sue refused to stop lecturing me, and I ended up telling her how angry I was about her intrusiveness and criticism.
I have never told Sue -- or anyone else -- what they should or shouldn't post, and I have never received negative feedback from anyone else.
I realize that Facebook is not private, but are there any rules concerning critiquing the posts of others?
-- One Less Friend
Dear One Less: The rules governing Facebook are the same rules that govern all human interchange: Understand that anything you say can and will be used against you in the court of public (or private) opinion.