Son's delirium causes unexpected hurt
Dear Amy: I would like your opinion on something. My son and I always had and still have a normal, loving, good relationship. Fifteen years ago, when he was 25, my son was diagnosed with a brain tumor. At the time, he had been married for two years to his college sweetheart.
I was fortunate enough to get referrals for the best surgeons. The operation went on for several hours. Upon his recovery, he was placed in a hospital bed. He was still kind of groggy and in a lot of pain when my husband, daughter and I went to see him.
I asked if there was anything he needed. He told me to get out of the room.
His wife's mother came in and he started calling out to her: "Mom!" and she went to him. I was never so crushed in my entire life.
I started to cry and ran out, and kept running.
My daughter and husband brought me to the cafeteria in the hospital to try and calm me down. After the surgery, he and his wife came back to stay at my house until he was healed enough to go to his home.
This incident was never brought up or talked about.
Now, 15 years later, I still harbor hurt and resentment. How do I handle it? I'm not in good health. Should I keep it buried or bring it up?
I'm not sure if he remembers it and do not want him to feel bad. However, it gnaws away on my mind and heart.
-- The Real Mother
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