This 'friend' is on a break -- with a vengeance
Dear Amy: My roommate and friend, "Rand," recently decided to take a break from his girlfriend of three years. He has been seeing other people and has had casual sex with a few different women in the short time since his breakup.
He asked me if I or my girlfriend had any friends who we could set him up with, and my girlfriend jumped at the idea to set him up with her friend.
The four of us went out for drinks and the pair hit it off. They ended up sleeping together, and have since been exchanging texts and making plans to hang out in the future.
He does not want this to be anything more than a short fling; he sees himself getting back together with his longtime girlfriend, and is moving to Boston for a new job in two months.
However, he did make it clear he wants to see her often before he goes (though this is most likely primarily for sex).
Although she understood he was just on a break with his girlfriend, she believes there may be a deeper connection. She does not know that he will continue to see other girls.
My girlfriend and I feel responsible for this because we set them up; we see a heartbreak waiting to happen, and we feel guilty that we didn't fully disclose the extent of his promiscuity before setting them up.
We are thinking of telling her, but are not sure what to say. We would like to preserve our friendship with her. What should we do?
-- Worried Pal
Dear Worried: Let your girlfriend handle this. She may have strong feelings -- guided by friendship, as well as the somewhat undefinable dictates of "girl code."
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