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Loss leaves a void, revealing friendship flaws

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I recently lost my father. He was someone I adored and spent many hours caring for.

Over the years I traveled to my hometown (in another state) to care for my mom and dad.

My long-time local friends (where I now live) witnessed my devotion and love for my father.

As we are all at the age where we are losing parents, I have attended funerals, contributed to flower arrangements, and sent donations and cards of condolence to these friends when their parents have died.

When my father died, our family was blessed with an outpouring of love and celebration in the hometown.

However, not one of my local friends, who I had considered some of my best friends, did anything to acknowledge my loss.

 

Yes, there were texts and Facebook messages. But nothing on a personal level -- not even a phone call.

I am absolutely heartbroken that these "friends" have virtually ignored my heartache.

This is not the first time I've experienced this imbalance in our friendships, and I'm not sure how to deal with this so that I can heal and not become bitter.

Can you give me some guidance?

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