Drug-dealing nephew causes car discomfort
Dear Amy: My 16-year-old nephew has been struggling.
He's failing in school, and has been arrested twice in the last couple of months. The first time he was with a bunch of his buddies, and he was found with marijuana on him.
Four weeks later, and he was arrested again -- this time for dealing!
Evidently, he's known not only by the local police but also the state police, who've been investigating him.
I love my nephew dearly. I have tried to be a good influence on him. I text him frequently, and take him out to dinner.
But now he's broken his phone, so I can't text him.
I'd like to continue to see him and take him out to dinner, but I'm very nervous about taking him anywhere in my car now because of these two arrests.
How do I spend alone-time with him now? Should I take him out for dinner, but tell him I have to look in his backpack and frisk him before we leave his house?
I feel terrible. I want to continue to give him the emotional support I think he needs, but I'm worried about transporting him (and his drugs!) in my car. I don't want to risk getting arrested for it.
What are your thoughts on how to handle this difficult situation?
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