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Couple wants to inspire nephew to be charitable

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My husband and I are childless by choice. We have one nephew -- a delightful 5 year old.

We love spending time with him. He is, however, "spoiled" by the fact that he regularly receives toys from his parents in exchange for good behavior.

I am concerned with what lies ahead. He has already figured out that he can get what he wants by bargaining with his parents.

Christmas is approaching and I would like to help him to realize that others aren't so fortunate (to have so many toys), and steer him away from this increasing materialism.

I would like him to learn empathy and charity, but I'm at a loss as to how.

Last Christmas my husband and I bought him one toy from his massive list and made a colorful "certificate" for him, informing of a donation we made in his name to a local charity. It was a charity to benefit animals. He was interested, but I'm not sure this was effective.

 

I keep very few toys at my home, so when he comes to visit we play more "imagination" type games. He does not complain of the lack of things to play with; he is happy to interact with us. He seems to enjoy our outings.

How do I help to guide him toward a more charitable future?

-- Auntie Em

Dear Auntie: One of the many joys of being an aunt/uncle is that you can influence the children in your life, without facing the daily challenges of learning how to be a parent. It can be a lofty perch, so I hope you don't judge your nephew's parents too harshly.

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