Want to break up? Some people just can't take a hint
Dear Amy: A few months ago, I started casually dating "Robert." We first met online.
Robert told me from the beginning that he had a very strict diet, didn't drink alcohol and paid close attention to ingredients in products that he used. I thought he was just an extremely healthy guy.
Robert recently told me that he has a degenerative disease, which will cause issues with his motor functions, speech and vision. He thinks that he has another three or four years left of being able to fully care for himself, before he can't do things like drive, or even walk. His condition is genetic, and he'd likely pass it down to any children he may have.
Robert is a sweet guy with a big heart, but we've only dated for about four months, and I don't know if I want to sign up for years of being someone's caregiver.
I'm only 31, and I want to experience everything life has in store for me, including children.
I decided to end it with Robert. I started to pull back, and tried to make it obvious that I was losing interest. He apparently didn't notice the signs, so I told him that I felt it was better if we just remained friends.
Amy, it's like he didn't even register what I said! He stills calls and texts daily, talks about how much he likes me, and about going on vacation together and meeting his family.
I don't feel right ghosting him, so I respond to him, but I try not to make plans with him.
Amy, I really think he's looking for someone to take care of him. I don't want to hurt him or be cruel, but how do I make a clean break?
-- Unsure
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