Dad goes all Liam Neeson over daughter's pot fine
Dear Amy: My daughter is 19. Her boyfriend is 18.
Over the summer, they were busted for smoking marijuana in her car.
The officer gave them the option of letting just one of them take the fall.
My daughter volunteered; I considered this a very bad decision. If this gets on her record she will lose her financial aid and college will be, if not impossible, very, very hard. Her boyfriend, however, comes from a very well-heeled family.
Regardless, she said that she would take the citation and he would pay the fine. Well, the case has now been heard and it was plea bargained down to a lower offense, but it comes with probation and $700 in costs/attorney's fees.
Her boyfriend has paid her $200. She says she is fine with that.
I am NOT fine with that. He's well-off. She is broke, and is working while going to a local college. He's off at a university, and I think she's worried that if she makes a big deal about this, he'll reconsider the relationship. But Amy, if she gets busted anytime in the next three years, her education is in jeopardy, while in his eyes this episode is over.
I'm thinking about sending him a text saying that he has a couple of weeks to pay up, or else I'll pay a visit to his parents and tell them the story.
I believe one of his uncles was offering him $2,000 to stay 'drug-free' through high school, although I do not know if this money was paid.
Is this too petty? Is this my business at all? She is an adult but she's still my daughter, and I think she's being taken advantage of.
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