Man wonders about disclosing affair
Dear Amy: I am a father with three kids, living in a very "gossipy" town.
My family life seemed to be ideal, but then I learned that my wife was having an affair for the last two years of our 16-year marriage. I was completely blindsided.
A few years have passed. I am now in a great place. The truth freed me, and I am grateful.
A year ago, I was out to dinner with a colleague. "Bradley," a guy I know through our mutual professions, walked in with a woman who was not his wife. Because Brad and his wife and kids recently moved away, I assumed he was with a family member or colleague while he was visiting.
They were doing shots, and the body language became intimate, and very inappropriate for a married man out with a woman who is not his wife.
I left that night and never told anyone about it.
Recently, however, I overheard from several other people that they, too, have witnessed Brad and this other woman; it seems that the couple is fairly open about this relationship.
I do not know Brad's wife, but I feel compelled to do something.
If she knows about this and wants to stay in the marriage, or wants to divorce, that's her choice. I just don't think she should be the last to know; like I was. I believe that knowledge is power, and she is in the dark.
Should I tell the wife? Should I confront Brad and give him a chance to come clean with her?
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