Wife doesn't want husband to say it with flowers
Dear Amy: A few months ago, I was upset with my husband, and he sent me flowers.
I told him it was a nice gesture, but I would rather not get flowers because I think it is a waste of money, and flowers eventually have to be thrown out.
It was my birthday recently, and he asked me what I wanted. I couldn't think of anything. (We've been married for 15 years and I have usually bought my own birthday presents.)
So, he got me flowers again.
I asked him if he remembered I would rather not get flowers because I would rather not waste the money on something I would have to throw away. He said he remembered, but he wanted me to know he was thinking about me and didn't know what to get me.
I'm upset! I feel like he doesn't listen to me or take me seriously. This isn't the only time this kind of thing has happened. I feel like he's just checking off a list: Wife's birthday -- send flowers -- check.
Am I making too big a deal out of it?
Should I just be happy with the flowers?
-- Upset Wife
Dear Upset Wife: I wonder why you are being so mean to the person who is trying so hard to acknowledge and please you.
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