The other woman wants to be the only woman
Dear Amy: I am a 50-year-old married woman with two boys (one still a minor). I have been married to "Randall" for 27 years.
Randall is a doctor and I'm a stay-at-home mom. He is a good provider. We have a good life, but it is deficient in passion.
Six years ago, I fell in love with "Sam," a married man (who also has two boys with his long-in-the-tooth wife).
Our long-distance affair lasted five glorious years until his wife found pictures of us. At her insistence, Sam reluctantly ended the affair and is remaining with her because it would "destroy her" if he left.
But he confessed to me that his passion for me endures and admitted that sex with me was the best he's ever had.
In the year since breaking up, I cannot stop thinking of Sam. I am sure he is dreaming of me.
How can I convince Sam that life is too short to stay with a woman he doesn't really love, and that he and I are meant to be together?
-- Inconsolable
Dear Inconsolable: I find it hard to focus on your actual question, because a white-hot ball of rage seems to have lodged behind my eyes.
Your selfishness is astounding. Your husband deserves to know that during the last several years he has spent being "a great provider" for his family, you have chosen to honor his efforts by lying and cheating. Granted you no doubt would like for him to continue to provide, but I hope he wakes up and smells the deceit. Does he want to stay married to you?
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