Ex-boyfriend becomes current-colleague
Dear Amy: I've worked at a medium-sized company for 13 years.
I attended an office lunch for new employees last week, and was totally shocked to see my ex-boyfriend, "Kieran," among them! He had accepted a job and started at the company the week before.
We acknowledged each other at the lunch, but I was so shocked that I didn't say much to him, and left as soon as I could.
We dated for almost two years, and called it quits about three years ago. At the time, I'd caught him lying about where he was and what he was doing. I didn't trust him anymore, so I ended it.
It was a bad breakup. We haven't talked since. We don't follow each other on social media.
I am dating a great guy now. I'm pretty sure that Kieran is still single.
Kieran reached out to me over email, apologizing for the awkward workplace encounter, and asked if I wanted to grab coffee. I told him I'm not ready. I want to be fair to my boyfriend's feelings, too. (I haven't told my boyfriend about this, yet.)
Shouldn't Kieran have contacted me before he accepted a job at my company? Isn't that selfish on his part?
How should I deal with this situation now?
-- Upset
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